Want to lead well? Start with curiosity.

One of the most underrated leadership habits isn’t a skill you learn in a workshop or a tactic you pull out when things get messy.
It’s a posture. A way of moving through the world.

I was reminded of that recently while spending time with my friend Karen Behfar, founder of The Behfar Team located in Brooklyn. We first connected through the Path for Growth community, and from day one I noticed something about her: she pursues growth with genuine curiosity. She asks sharp questions, not to show what she knows, but to uncover what she doesn’t. That’s often rare for an established leader.

When we finally met in person, that same hunger to learn showed up just as strong offline as it does online.

And then I met her husband, Aharon Behfar.
Karen leads with active curiosity. Aharon leads with quiet curiosity.

Where Karen fires off thoughtful questions, Aharon takes the “quick to listen, slow to speak” approach. He watches the room. He picks up on tone, body language, timing. He notices… and then contributes. It’s a style of leadership that’s disappearing in a world where everyone wants the mic first.

Both are powerful.
Both are needed.
Both make people around them better.

Curiosity isn’t one-size-fits-all.
Some leaders dig deeper by asking great questions.
Others elevate the room by simply observing with intention.

Either way, curiosity is what keeps a leader humble, open, and growing.